Easier for me. They were young. Actually, my last meeting was about 12 weeks into my wife’s 2 nd pregnancy. My son was almost 3. If they were older, pre-teen or teenagers, I imagine it would have been much harder. By then (teenage years) they would have had much stronger friendships making it harder to sever relationships. Mrs. Dazed said it was easier for her too.
When I left, I knew I couldn’t fake it any longer. I never imagined leaving the “truth” would mean loosing my wife or kids. I left before coming to this site where I read horror stories of families falling apart when one spouse left without the other.
I have overcome the, hopefully!, last obstacle in my fade / leaving – which is keeping a good relationship with my uber dub mom and sister. They know I left. They are sad about it, but so far, they are willing to keep a relationship with me as long as I don’t rub non religious things in their faces. I block them from seeing happy moments like holiday celebrations and birthdays. Their loss.
